Comments on: would you do anything different?

By: manic monday #3: 2009 in review. | Big Sky Girl

manic monday #3: 2009 in review. | Big Sky Girl — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 08:35:44 +0000

[...] ♥ wrote my first super-deep blog post. [...]

By: nicoleantoinette

nicoleantoinette — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:13:44 +0000

I think it’s hard to know what you would change without knowing how it would impact all that came after it. Like now, I might say “I wish I would have gone to a less expensive school,” but if I did, I wouldn’t have had the same doors open for me and who knows who’d I’d have met and where I’d be. I believe that everything is connected to everything else, and that you couldn’t go back and change one thing without everything else being different too.

By: Kyla Bea

Kyla Bea — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 02:49:48 +0000

I think that honestly, I’m too young to have an real massive and serious regrets. Anything I’ve done wrong I’ve really tried to learn from, and when I’ve been wronged it has taught be things about people I’m close to that I needed to know as soon as was possible.

I wouldn’t change things really, for now.

By: courtney903

courtney903 — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 17:34:27 +0000

We talked about this the other night (last night?) but I’m gonna put in my two cents anyway.

There are certain things that looking back, I wish I could change. BUT I realize that looking back on them, I didn’t have the strength or emotional maturity to do them differently. I was young and naive, and to some extent I still am, but those are things that really helped me grow up. They made me realize how important certain things are to me, and how unimportant other things are.

It’s weird, because I think I would definitely do some things differently, but had I done them differently, I would have already been the person I am today. So I guess they did make me who I am.

Huh.

By: mandy

mandy — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 14:31:45 +0000

I wrestled with this a long time ago the conclusion that I reached, which is the best thing for me, is that there is very little in my life that I regret. The stupid things I did — spending money on frivioulous things when I didn’t have it, being mean to someone I shouldn’t have been mean to, things like that — I view them as lessons learned, not regrets. Even bigger things, dropping out of a friends wedding three months before which ruined our incredibly close friendship, thats still a lesson learned that I grew from. Thinking I was transferring college and then having it fall apart just days before it was supposed to happen, not a regret. I would have regretted it more if I hadn’t tried but from that experience I ended up staying at the college I originally started at, was able to do an internship in the very city I wanted to transfer to and while it was a fun three months, I’m really glad that I didn’t move there for college at that time in my life.

I think there are always things that we question — what if, thats just a natural part of being human. I just take the things that most people would view as regrets and try to look back and see how they helped me grow as a person and what lessons I can take from them to help me make better decisions about my future. I don’t think its a cop out in the least, just a learning process.